Time is finite, and although space may be infinite, your space is not. At the start and end of a 15-minute unit of time, there is a limit to the space you live in, which is the space for interacting with people, places, and things. Life is interaction, and we consciously choose and accept these interactions, or we unconsciously allow and tolerate them. To choose is to be at cause, and to allow or tolerate is to be the victim of effect.

Living your best life and achieving your highest aims will be the result of mastering the choice of who, where, and what is for you, and whom you can be for. A thriving tribe is an ecology, culture, and economy of reciprocity. A flourishing, holistic entity, carefully curated for cooperation, collaboration, and creation. You are for them, and they are for you.

I don’t think any of us will ever create utopia within our tribe. That is not the goal. The goal is more alignment and less friction and resistance. Friction and resistance are not all bad, but being in a constant state of either is not good. To achieve with more ease, less friction, and less dis-ease, we must choose who is for us and who we can be for. This is often very different than who we want.

How do we recognize who is for us? It takes wisdom and discernment to know, and it is likely built over time. A good starting point may be these three traits:

• Giver, Investor, and Gracious Receiver: Is this who they are, or something they do sometimes? Avoid takers and apathy.
• Listener: Are they capable and prone to active listening?
• Deep Work: Are they right or curious? You are looking for curious.

At a minimum, these three qualities must be present for individuals to thrive in reciprocity. Choosing one thing in a 15-minute unit means you are simultaneously un-choosing every other possibility. When that moment is gone, there is no getting it back. The average life span is 2.8 million units. Steward them wisely with who is for you, and who you can be for.

 

Tribe Well,

Brett